Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Last minute shopping?


Need ideas for a last minute gift? Small is always good... especially if it involves a bit of fun and loving play.

May your holiday be rich with love, if nothing else... nothing else is as precious as each other, the trust, love, and intimacy that you are capable of sharing.

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Dear Friends ...

Wishing everyone all the best in these ... most interesting times.
Merry Christmas!

As I was writing a few holiday cards last night, I had the IFC channel on the TV, and quickly realized that the movie was quite interesting. Body of Evidence was uncut and loaded with more body than evidence... whew. Following it was Kinsey, also not a new movie, it is just that I don't see much TV, and this was also quite interesting... and contained, obviously a serious boatload of different aspects of human sexuality that I've read about in the past several months. I'm sure I am probably the last one to see these two; the first for more just raw sex and 'who dun it' intrigue, and the second for material I did not know was covered in the Kinsey research. Honestly... I did get all my cards finished... at about 1am.

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Digging Deeper into ... Myself?

While running through the blogs, I stumbled across the link (click on the title above) that offers insight to the complexity of several ... make that 'many' of us? I need to hit the weights and dinner but have you visited this site before?

On another line of thought... I realized I had collected, over the years, quite a few photos from our different postings. It struck me as I was viewing through the array that if the photo was a beautiful women, I loved those wonderful naked ladies with a sincere smile on their face... like most of those found at www.domai.com. Many of the others that appealed to me included a 'most pleasurable' expression of joy in the women's face as she was engaged in sex. As I have only scratched the surface of the web site mentioned above, it is clear I love to watch, as does more of us than we will admit. I'm thinking that watching that expression on my lover's face is extremely enticing...

Another note, also covered in the same site, is the link to spirituality and our curious lifestyles. I just finished reading 'The Shack'... and if you have also, you know why it is still on the best sellers list week after week. The interesting thing, although the focus of the book seems directed to another area entirely, is ... OMG... many of our societal rules are created by... us. Yeah... not God, but rather society. Because so many of our relationships are so fragile? Because we males have (or at least I've been told) difficulty expressing our selves, and our feelings?

I've barely started here, but need to exercise now (ok, yeah look what you have done Tom, we're all thinking healthy! ...
Just kidding ;-) Yes... chastity, tease & denial too, but if you are handing that key away, you want to be still looking good in that cage).

Love on Ladies & Gentlemen.

Saturday, December 6, 2008

Trust & Intimacy comment

A writer "Wads" on another website expressed a few comments that I think mirrors what I have been wondering for a couple months... to a point:

...The question of how he could be ok with another man screwing his wife hit me. It all had to do with intimacy and trust. Let me explain:

Intimacy - Sex is the most intimate act we humans can experience. While this may be hard for non lifestylers to understand, there is an indescribable degree of intimacy in watching your partner “fucking” someone else. I use the term “fucking” purposely, because that is what is going on. Pure, animalistic pleasure seeking fun. You love someone, you naturally want to see them enjoy themselves. Lets face it, nothing is more fun then sex. I believe it is narrow minded to think that ones partner is the only source of sexual pleasure that he or she could ever experience in a lifetime. Some may say that they don’t want their partner to feel sexual pleasure from anybody but them. That sounds selfish to me. Believe me, a new and vast area of intimacy is achieved when jealously and selfishness are tossed out the window and a partner is trusted to “fuck around” and enjoy him or herself. When you are just watching the action you can feel yourself connecting with your partner in a way you never thought possible. Although there are three of you in the room, it is something the two of you are really doing together. I know this may be hard to comprehend for some. Even if the “fucking” takes place with the observing partner out of the room, it is still very intimate even spiritual and can further deepen the bond of trust between a couple.

Trust - Lets face it, we should be constantly learning as we go though life. Learning about the world outside and more importantly about ourselves. Through experiencing sex with others we can learn a great deal more about what makes us tick. For example: How would you know you don’t like peanut butter if you never tried it? How would you know you don’t like a double penetration if you never tried it either? I have never “fucked” two women that were exactly the same between the sheets or otherwise. Each one brought something special to the experience By allowing your partner full access to life’s sexual buffet is both an ultimate act of love and trust."

I'm inclined to agree with him, but as I may have already stated in previous posts, this would not be merely my own interest served; it would have to be hers as well, for as you may have noticed, her pleasure is paramount, even though I would want to soon follow any extracurricular sexual episode with one of our own. Yes, playing on the tease & denial route, when she decides...

I need to follow up in my next post... In the mean time; I hope everyone is having a great & loving Sunday.

Thursday, December 4, 2008

Love and Kinks?

I've been bad... I've been all over the web today. And not really accomplishing anything, except gathering a wealth of insight on life that don't really pertain to me at the moment. I'm looking forward to the holidays when I will have a little more time to do the same.

Nice catching up on a few blogs; love to check in and see shat so many are writing about. I usually start with Tom (school reunion??) over at the Edge of Vanilla, and Lady Julia of course; she usually makes my day ... love that lady. And lately, checking in with Rach & Andrew, Ally & Hubby, and Bacon & Lettuce over on the Hot Wife side. If you read any of my previous posts, you know I have a history there that I had buried in my memories until reading these recent posts, and gaining some insight on what that world is all about. There are a dozen more as well when I have time...


I've been a monogamous partner for 10 years now, but in my previous relationship, not so much... the brief dip into the MFM world as mentioned, and a string of other relationships, and many fond memories...

Still, the desire to remain monogamous remains, but I can't stay in
the loveless trench I find myself. I realize too many sleepless nights, dreaming about love & intimacy. The loveplay with male chastity is still strong, and oddly, the interests in sharing obviously touches a nerve... in a different way. It could be shear desire to have that deep of a relationship, with the confidence that the strength of our love would forever endure while extending the pleasure and excitement of my lover, while keeping the excitement in our relationship as well.

I know there are scores of people out there that wouldn't for a moment think about such a past time, and would judge us wrong for this path taken. Of course, if you are such a person, it is time to exit this blog immediately.

For the rest of us, realizing the depth and strength of relationship excitement at this level is excuciating, frightening, tingly, nerve racking, and wonderfully pleasurable. Ahhh.. time to go down to the basement gym, or hit the snow shovel... I think we have about 5" of new snow by now.