Fantasy or Real Experience...

 

  The comments in this photo say it all.  As if he had shared his fantasy with her for years, perhaps adding to their bedroom passion, until an opportunity arose that she had to have.  Why this emotion simmers for years within some of the male population is hard to explain.  Why we chose to remain completely monogamous while encouraging her complete freedom is just as mysterious.  I'm sure I've said as much in past posts.  Had this fantasy not come to life for me years ago, I may have never believed it.  Anyone that has read back in my blog knows I was seduced into participating suddenly one night when a friend called asking for a hand with a problem.  My initial thoughts were electrical or household plumbing, or the air conditioner quit. It wasn't my hand they wanted. Anyway, as the years passed and I found this rather common fantasy on the internet and that it existed inside me as well.  I'm sure it has something to do with my enjoying the pleasure she seems to be having.

Looking back, I wish I had kept up with the couple as we didn't keep in touch and lost contact.  Knowing what I know now, I would have asked a few questions of each of them. As my memory strains to know who wanted what, I'm guessing she accepted his fantasy quite easily. Perhaps it was hers all along.

The second couple that invited me into this play was easier to accept. I've never written about it.  It was a bit of a different situation, as the husband was often out town on business.  Kate was another women that knew what she wanted, which made their desire easier.  It began when I was invited to a 'playful' evening, along with a female friend, to play poker one evening. As it turned out, we all 'lost our chips' and the husband and the other guest went upstairs, leaving Kate and I alone naked on the living room floor.  I don't think there was any doubt on the direction this all went, as Kate realized I was a 'normal' penis sized guy, while her husband was actually too large for her comfort. Wow... don't read about that often.

So when hubby was out of town, they would flirt for awhile on the phone, and I would get a rather urgent 'can you come down here now?'.  Not one to turn down opportunities at the time, I would rush down and found that foreplay had already been in high gear.  She didn't want foreplay, she didn't want my tongue, she just wanted my stiff self now, in her, NOW.   And minutes later, she would roll over and with a sweet kiss, whisper 'please lock the door on your way out'.  This went on for a period until his company transferred them to the southwest.  

Not very satisfying for me, but I was just a tool to her pleasure.  Sure she wanted everything I had to offer, and not having an orgasm was not an option.  She wanted to be left fully filled and wet.

Ok, fine... what are friends for?  We still had great barbeques on the patio and plenty of laughs until the transfer.

Still the first couple was more intriguing as I remember towards the end, she enjoyed her orgasm and then asked me not to cum.  My first exposure to serious tease and denial?  Ok, yes as Sarah mentions, the fantasy is great, but the actual reality of a hotwife or cuckold experience is not for everyone.

Years later after these experiences, I had that strange urge to give up control of my orgasms to my then partner.  At that time, my partner didn't realize what she was dealing with or how to handle it.  Nor did I.  I wonder now, years later, if she has figured that out with her husband.

If only I had stumbled on a blog like this one years ago.  A vanilla beginning that just keeps getting better every time this husband and wife post.  If you are new to male chastity play, be sure to read Sue Ellen's account then Bob's.  Wish this was available 20 years ago.

We are such complicated folks aren't we?

 Enjoy friends, never say never, and be open minded.

Rule of Three

Our game, our rules, our fun... but it all starts with that element that we all talk about.  Well, two actually... communication and trust. And then find your own limits or boundaries or ... not.  The bottom line is just do it and enjoy your connection. Because after today... is one day less fun you could have been thrilled with.

Does Rule of Three really mean anything? No... She has the key and we mutually agree it is up to her. The Three merely reminds her she controls the bedroom fun. We just don't engage in this full time (well, at least not yet).  Just whenever the whim strikes her... and she has that ornery tease and denial streak that red heads seem to have.

For the Mainstream News Stands?

Imagine a soft approach for the newbies, and some of our mainstream experienced women readers...

Perhaps we could entice Sarah Jameson to be editor, and add features such as on this intro cover, and softer themes of 'Should I Allow an Orgasm This Month?'  Or 'Our Intimacy Leap' , 'Your Communication Epiphany',  'Teasing Him with a Cuckold Fantasy', or 'More Security: To Pierce or Not?'

This could be useful for the new interest in chastity play, and allow them to not freak with some of the more colorful paths that some people venture into as you see too often.

Women seeing the cover of Cosmo last year with the 'Own His Orgasm' title may have started thinking by now that there is more to this thought than was introduced in the magazine. And they should...

Your thoughts?

House MD

While watching a little TV the other night, I stumbled onto an episode of House MD where a woman patient is explaining to one of the residents how her open marriage came to be with her husband.  (Somehow in the investigation of her illness the fact of their sexual issues became a subject.)

As one of the interns was curious about this relationship, the woman explained how she enjoyed the extra marital sex and this 10% of her time allowed her to give back to her husband the 90% that he gave her.  Fascinating discussion, and I'm not doing it justice.  Anyway, in another conversation, the interns discover that although the husband had the freedom to roam, he choose not as all he really wanted was his wife, and her happiness mattered more to him then her monogamous devotion. They were both happy with their lives.

Interesting topic for the program, and I guess I don't watch enough TV and shouldn't be surprised for this on House MD.  There was more, but some of the discussion of course centered on the differences in the way men and women are wired.  Having already been involved in this activity years ago as I already posted, it was easy to understand.  Seeing it come to light here did get my attention. Keeping it as a fantasy in the bedroom is still a huge turn on, and as a possibility for reality is hot as well.  Never say Never. As long as the 6 rules are used over there on the right side.

Oh, and the bee sting poisoning was discovered and all ended well.  Except one intern that thought he should try this lifestyle... that was another episode.

Oh Where to Hide the Key

Just our little secret... we won't tell him that the key to his cage is tucked safely in your tummy...



And that you are staying home for our trip away next week...


Shhhh... It's just our little secret, ok?

So many little bits of fun that come with chastity play, that she will have fun with when they get past the initial "You Want to do What?"

Open up and live & love...

Another Year Already?

If you've read this blog all along, you know I think everyday should be Valentine's Day...

Hope it is another sweet day for you too. I also hope you have a few sweet messages with your sweets...

And may you ladies wear your keys proudly.

Thank You for the Click

Seems all of the people that find these chastity play pages have a common item that we all love.  The sound of that 'click' as the lock closes, and we males have granted our lover the power of surrender over us.

After the click, we all have a variety of paths that make our day.  Different is fine, as long as our lover is on the same path, which is where some of us need a 'course correction'.  Probably the hardest part of that 'taking the same path' is just simply the communication as the journey begins.  Part of it is simply the realization for her that it is okay to lock him up, to tease him, to deny him, to take the play, the teasing from him, the orgasm he wants her to totally enjoy with all his blessings, while he does not.  Not this time.  Maybe not next time, or the time after that.  Yes his desire builds, yes he enjoys the tease, even if it drives him up the wall.  Don't feel guilty... just say Thank You lover.  And continue to tease, and when the desire strikes you, take him.

After all... he granted you that freedom, that power, that pleasure in knowing your pleasure is his pleasure. Take it.  Embrace it, and don't look back to the days before the two of you discovered chastity play. And enjoy that moment when you know he has again been brought to the very edge, ... only this time he explodes in a moment you choose to feel his release...

For many that write here, joy comes in locking him right back up again.  For some of us, a break until the mood strikes her again, as I wrote in the 'Rule of Three' is really keeping the fire going.  It seems lately, I find more women want the lockup to continue.  Okay... I can live with that. Enjoy.