Tom Allen's Interview

Most everyone that stumbles upon the idea of male chastity eventually runs into Tom Allen's blog; one of the most realistic writers who brought vanilla male chastity into the real world.  When I first found Tom's blog, I thought finally, some realistic thoughts, experiences, and advice that wouldn't scare away the ladies (and some of the men too).  Finally, a researcher is delving into aspects of male chastity and providing a better understanding of this playful opportunity to spring some life back into relationships.  So... pop over to Tom's blog and check it out here.

I see the blogs as a little quiet right now, despite the warmer summer days... but hey, with all the flooding and fires burning, and a myriad of other events around the globe, it is a bit harder to squeeze in a bit of intimacy with your partner.  Don't take her for granted; take her hand instead and steal a few moments for yourselves. And take it up a notch with some chastity play.

Patience Grasshopper

After just reading comments over at A Wonderful Journey, I tossed in a comment at the end and then sat back to reflect for a moment that I could use a bit of encouragement as well, but I just don't take the time to really blog about where my life is at the moment. Duh...

I'm just too quick to live in the moment of the rest of you, and don't offer where I am in comparison (not that any of our lives would correspond exactly anyway...). And at the moment, it is mute anyway. However, I did just get an interesting email from someone that flirts with me occasionally that ended with a comment that I'm not sure I understand: 'I greet that place where you and I are one'. ???

I'm not sure what she means by that and not yet in a position to push that communication aspect that I keep mentioning throughout my blog. Sigh...

In the meantime, I'll keep re-reading Sarah's BCWYWF and think through what I would say when the moment arrives. Thanks again to all of you in blogland that share your stories and experiences, for what you write lifts many more to push towards the intimacy we seek.

Stay warm and safe travels to you.

Small Gifts, Happy Wishes

Suddenly it is that time of year again... and I'm hoping everyone gets what they want on their list. Of course, depending on how naughty and nice you've been may depend on what will appear Saturday morning.

Here's hoping for that there is a small gift for you both, may it bring you much happiness and days weeks and months of glowing intimacy that will keep smiles on your lips well past winter and into the warmth of summer...

Now I hope you both compiled your list to Santa of all the expectations and hopes for the holiday and top it off by sharing it with your partner.

Regarding Intimacy - Which Would He Choose?

If you set your husband/boyfriend down and viewed a long list of exotic photos, which do you think he would select? And why? What is it that drew him to that photo? Lust? Content? Composition? Or just clearly the sex...?

And your views on the same photo? Or some he didn't select? Any fantasies shared with masturbation? Threesomes? Kinks? No... I don't include male chastity play as kink; we are just ahead of the game. Maybe I've been here too long, but male chastity play is just deep intimacy within a couple that love each other. OK, maybe on the edge-of-vanilla (where have I heard that before?) Anyway, here is an interesting spot if case you need a starting place.

Just another avenue to explore the levels of comfort in talking through the intimacy that the two of you share. Does he have a few photos tucked away in a folder somewhere he hasn't shared with you? Just wondering...

WAIT... I forgot to add if you really are curious about his reactions, try it with him naked. A twist on reading his 'body language' and how it corresponds to what he says...

Diversity & Communication

After skimming through a few blogs this morning, I see a common thread again that I've written about numerous times... and it still appears as a major barrier to many of us. Communication. I probably don't need to reiterate the importance of it again (you will find it many times through the history of my blog), so I'll fore go the subject, other than to say I wish there were as easier way for each of us to stop dancing around the thoughts in our heads and just get it right.

Another theme that peeks from under the sheets... diversity. Thankfully, each of us is a bit different and our response to the variety of stimuli is as varied as the day is long. While I really enjoy reading the blogs, and try not to judge what stirs emotions in one direction or another, I find it incredibly interesting that the general themes surface as they do. I can see as I write this that I could easily spend the rest of the day writing on the subject, but that won't happen with the dead lines I have. Perhaps another time...

I most appreciate when couples share their thoughts on the blogs, and see responses from partners that indicate the emotions or thoughts from their partners seem to flow through where they might not have made it through the verbal exchange, or even the barrage of events that pass through our daily lives. Kudos to those of you that find a way to extend that communication and understanding that we all seek. What I do wonder is if our simply wearing of the steel cage and surrendering the key to our ladies is a special extension of making that higher level of communication possible between us. Intimacy with extra frosting on the cake...

Ok, and yes, then there is all the deep emotions associated with 'OMG - He is giving me the power of control over his orgasms... and allowing me unlimited pleasure to all I can have'.

I'm rambling and must get back to the tasks at hand... (no, not that one, real work). Have a great day in chastity.

Gaining Popularity?

Seems this latest find is gaining as the cage of choice... just not TSA safe. But that may become mute with the new body scanners being employed?

So comfort and increasing choice of our ladies?

Love the Real Blogs

I'm not gone... just buried. But I still try to get out and read a number of the blogs and love reading life moving along, and while day to day stuff will always be there, the play continues, and in some cases, grows (no pun intended).

Keep talking and thanks for sharing!

Just a Quick Tease

Inspired again during the night, but again without much of a day to share it...

I did read through Sarah's Guide and have a bit to share there too, but it will have to wait...

Hope it is a great Wednesday! By now, everyone is probably curious about the Cosmo edition on the magazine shelves with the 'Own His Orgasm' teaser on the front cover... I know I am.