Small Gifts, Happy Wishes

Suddenly it is that time of year again... and I'm hoping everyone gets what they want on their list. Of course, depending on how naughty and nice you've been may depend on what will appear Saturday morning.

Here's hoping for that there is a small gift for you both, may it bring you much happiness and days weeks and months of glowing intimacy that will keep smiles on your lips well past winter and into the warmth of summer...

Now I hope you both compiled your list to Santa of all the expectations and hopes for the holiday and top it off by sharing it with your partner.

Regarding Intimacy - Which Would He Choose?

If you set your husband/boyfriend down and viewed a long list of exotic photos, which do you think he would select? And why? What is it that drew him to that photo? Lust? Content? Composition? Or just clearly the sex...?

And your views on the same photo? Or some he didn't select? Any fantasies shared with masturbation? Threesomes? Kinks? No... I don't include male chastity play as kink; we are just ahead of the game. Maybe I've been here too long, but male chastity play is just deep intimacy within a couple that love each other. OK, maybe on the edge-of-vanilla (where have I heard that before?) Anyway, here is an interesting spot if case you need a starting place.

Just another avenue to explore the levels of comfort in talking through the intimacy that the two of you share. Does he have a few photos tucked away in a folder somewhere he hasn't shared with you? Just wondering...

WAIT... I forgot to add if you really are curious about his reactions, try it with him naked. A twist on reading his 'body language' and how it corresponds to what he says...

Busted... By Balancing a Check Book?

While running through the monthly expenditures, she pauses on a paypal purchase. "You bought a book via PayPal? What is it about?"

"It is a book on intimacy, by Sarah Jameson, titled 'Be Careful What You Wish For'. Would you like to read it? It is in our shared directory..."

So far... I don't think she has cracked it, so on to the suggestions Sarah has in the book for 'making the leap'. Hmmmm....

I breezed through her book the first time, and I'm starting a second read, and truly appreciate the depth and content, and would put it on your 'must read' list for the holiday if you haven't started that yet.

Believe It ... He DOES really mean it.

While getting a few rare moments again, I wandered over to MikeCB's Chastity Journey and read a recent post that I would agree with regarding whether women really believe we mean it. Tease me and deny me. The truth is, years ago in my youth, I would have probably not believed it either... WHY would a man rather be repeatedly on the edge and not be allowed to orgasm, and love to see his partner pleasured to the hilt? As ofter as she desires?

While we are all wired a bit differently, and each of us will vary slightly in those desires and perhaps the degree of being teased & denied, unmistakeably there are many men out here that want exactly that. And as many of the 'real' life blogs are finally saying... the benefits for her typically exceed anything he is experiencing.

Wander over and check the full text... and ladies, if you don't trust the concept, just feel free to try it. Once you start the journey, I doubt you will want to go back...

Grey.

From High on the Mountain... Happy Thanksgiving

Hope everyone has a warm and friendly holiday... with double helpings of love...
Cherish and enjoy all that surrounds us.

My Naivete?

Browsing a quick moment this morning brought me to two words that I've not known before, although I'm intimately familiar with both. Compersion and Candaulism. I've got to run and must return later to the discussion, but didn't want to forget them, since many who read these pages can relate to both, either in practice or fantasy...

Later...

Diversity & Communication

After skimming through a few blogs this morning, I see a common thread again that I've written about numerous times... and it still appears as a major barrier to many of us. Communication. I probably don't need to reiterate the importance of it again (you will find it many times through the history of my blog), so I'll fore go the subject, other than to say I wish there were as easier way for each of us to stop dancing around the thoughts in our heads and just get it right.

Another theme that peeks from under the sheets... diversity. Thankfully, each of us is a bit different and our response to the variety of stimuli is as varied as the day is long. While I really enjoy reading the blogs, and try not to judge what stirs emotions in one direction or another, I find it incredibly interesting that the general themes surface as they do. I can see as I write this that I could easily spend the rest of the day writing on the subject, but that won't happen with the dead lines I have. Perhaps another time...

I most appreciate when couples share their thoughts on the blogs, and see responses from partners that indicate the emotions or thoughts from their partners seem to flow through where they might not have made it through the verbal exchange, or even the barrage of events that pass through our daily lives. Kudos to those of you that find a way to extend that communication and understanding that we all seek. What I do wonder is if our simply wearing of the steel cage and surrendering the key to our ladies is a special extension of making that higher level of communication possible between us. Intimacy with extra frosting on the cake...

Ok, and yes, then there is all the deep emotions associated with 'OMG - He is giving me the power of control over his orgasms... and allowing me unlimited pleasure to all I can have'.

I'm rambling and must get back to the tasks at hand... (no, not that one, real work). Have a great day in chastity.