New toy for intimate play

Like I mentioned in my last post, I haven't had much time to play, but took a moment this afternoon to get my head up for air... And it has been worth the time... Several of you have a bit of spring fever and things heating up. Whew... Congrats!

And Tom found a new toy! Looks like it could be fun with the right partner! Check it out... at Kept for Her. I'm jealous... Thanks for sharing everyone!

What do you know?

Yes, still alive... and not living, just busy, like most of you.

In the middle of the night, when my brain inexplicably pops on, I remember thinking back to the subject of lists... probably because someone on Facebook was filling out one of their profiles. I went beyond, and was pondering what we would think of if we had to come up with lists with 100 'things':

• 100 Things I like about myself
• 100 Things I like about my partner/spouse (roommate?)
  
• 100 Things I would like to change in the world
• 100 Places I want to visit in my life (yes, the 'bucket' list)
• 100 Intimate moments I would love to share in my life
• Your turn... what would you add to this crazy list of lists?

I know, you thinking... 'Grey, what does this have to do with love, intimacy, trust, chastity play, enjoying her pleasure?' No, I can't answer that, just that I've been so busy that I hardly get out to the neighborhood blogs... and haven't therefore had much time to reminisce about old memories. I fear that not having an intimate relationship means 'use it or lose it' setting in again. Yeah... sex once in five years is extremely sad. That does make my life no more than a roommate status.

Happy Valentines...

I hope everyone reading these pages have a very special loving day, with all the possibilities that we can imagine, and have the courage to share with our partner. I can't remember which of the blogs listed in my list mentioned it, but the couple set down and made a list of 100 items about themselves that they then shared with their mate... I want to try it... have you?

I only wish I could share in the intimacy of this day...

Moving toward Valentines Day

This is not a day to ignore in most happy homes, although I must. She does not appreciate this date on the calendar, thinking it is only there for commercial reasons. "Every day should be Valentine's Day..." Ok, I can't argue with that. I hope everyone has a very special day, however you chose to celebrate...

Of course, some of us may be planning ahead and treat the day as a special time to explore a little fun... Have fun with this idea; use him now, or tease and deny him a bit before the weekend..?

Have fun and keep loving...

Speak the Language...

I always thought I had a command of our language, although it seems many times I just really miss the mark. I know... it takes two to communicate. Well, I'll keep trying... although sometimes I wish what I said would spark the response in this photo.

Interesting... no, I don't think so.

I'm just not into pain... but this is an interesting use of technology that I did not expect to see.

DreamLoverLabs has a toy that ... well, check it out for yourself (click on title above)

Discovered by CagedOne

More 'Enlightenment'

While she was reading from 'The Female Brain', as I mentioned in my previous post, a reference came up that women first choose a mate that will be a lover, provider, secure, now and for years to come. Then, as we are beginning to understand, and as I've discovered in several different references lately, she may dream about, or choose, a lover, for a brief tryst, or even on-going for some period. Also mentioned is the difference in the 'hard wiring' of the sexes, and how he is more likely to be monogamous to the relationship. ok... scientifically, we may understand that we've been wired this way for countless centuries, but the other driving forces are varied.

As I've wandered through a few of the blogs, I've run into a distaste for the label 'cuckold', which I also have had heartburn with too (also in my previous posts). I ran into a more 'modern', and acceptable, definition of the word that places it more in line with 'hotwifing'. That is, it is more about a loving husband wanting his wife to be more empowered and in control of her own pleasure, which he ultimately shares when she returns and recounts her latest escapade. This is too brief to go into here, but the links I've added under 'Interesting Reading' offers volumes of fascinating information that offers even more insight than I have gleaned from the personal couples blogs.

One very striking observation is that much of our current, or recent monogomous marital behavior was based in part, on jealousy and possessiveness, which is historically religious based on the premise that women were property. This is, of course, if you have read any of my previous diatribe, not who I am. And at least partially why I find the hotwife concept of such interest, along with the fascination of loving my partner and knowing her pleasure during, or after, an evening out (or in, as it may be). Anyway, plenty of reading if you find the subject interesting, and while you are at it, check out the '10 Rules' and modify slightly to apply to your situation rather than the 'open' relationship as orignally drafted. The research suggests that the hotwifing/cuckold fantasy is probably the #1 fantasy ever... possibly for both sexes, but highly repressed for women.

Of course, my personal twist adds the playful possession aspect, willingly granted, of chastity play, and extending the tease & denial foreplay of the day, waiting for her anticipated return to my loving arms.

Have a good day...