Comments Blocked?

I'm way behind on my blog, with new inspiration warming up just like this crazy spring weather...
and something else is driving me crazy.  I'm tried to respond on other blogs through my usual method, and nothing happens... ? Now one or two I could understand, but every blog I've tried to respond to?

Am I missing something??

...?

On the Same Path

As I read through some of the blogs, I quit often stumble on one that really rings true to my interests, and Tom Allen again points to one I did not know about that really caught my interest. Titled 'Devotional Sex' , this site, free BTW, grasps the concept of women that are in total control of their intimacy, using a new vocabulary that I think the most vanilla couple could even get used to.  I don't think you would want to miss the concepts introduced here, and while relatively new, there is not alot of comment on the forum portion of the site yet.

I Love Happy Women! And this path may help...

There seems to be alot of similar parallels here to chastity play, and at the same time, some distinctions that some couples will embrace that are just on the edge of vanilla (read 'boring') sex...

So... your thoughts and reactions?

Orgasm is Not the Goal

I'm not even sure how I stumbled upon this link 'Healing with Sexual Relations'  and really havent' taken enough time to explore it other than to breeze through a few passages from the book mentioned there:

Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships, by Marnia Robinson

Strangely enough, she has done a wealth of research only to find that orgasm should not be the goal.  Imagine that.  Sound familiar gents?  Anyway... yet another book to add to the foray of information that promises to enrich our relationships.

 Another blog with a wealth of information regarding the male orgasm... 

I've got to run but had to share a quick couple items in the Thursday race for the weekend. Cheers.

What IF Women Really Knew

I write here in my blog quite often of just ‘stuff’ that creeps into my head, and finally take a few minutes to actually share them here.  Well… this morning is no different.  I know I go weeks and months without posting, and for that I do apologize because as much as anything, this is nearly just a journal then really reaching out to the world.  Another thought occurred to me today, not much different then my usual, inspired by this image I had saved some time ago.

What if, and maybe I’ve said this in several different ways already, women had the opportunity to learn about chastity play much more readily than they do now, or at the least, an awareness of the subject.  If they understood that an amorous seduction was only for their pleasure, with the possible addition of his orgasm only on their whim, how would that change the whole bedroom scenario?  I'm a believer that she should never promise a particular date when she might let me orgasm.  It should always be when she wishes or plans, without my knowledge, just keep up the teasing as if it could happen today. Or not.

Would she be much more willing to ‘let me seduce her’, or actually initiate a loving session on her own?  I often think that as much as we pretend to know or understand our sexual selves, we just really don’t.  And the subject is still avoided from generation to generation.  If women knew to probe into the minds of their boyfriends before marriage regarding sexual ‘turn-ons’, would they dump him or at least educate him? 

I hate to admit this, but I knew nothing about truly pleasuring my women until middle age, and even then was a bit clumsy.  If Only… If only we could communicate more readily on the subject, our whole world would take on a new perspective.

To all those ladies that had a sexual experience with me in my youth, my sincere apologies.  If only I knew from the beginning that while learning my manners, the ‘Ladies First’ rule really meant they come first (or at least learn of their particular turn-on that pleasures them most).

If they only knew that teasing and denying me while pleasuring them often was at their fingertips (no pun intended) it would have left much more indelible memories embedded in our past.  If only they knew that their pleasure was really more important then mine… And if they only knew that allowing me to orgasm just pushes my mind to quickly begin thinking of other subjects, they would make that occasion much more rare and meaningful.  As Sarah mentions often, ‘men want release, but really crave denial’.  That’s so true.

If only my lady knew that the insecure jealousy factor of typical male possessiveness could be replaced with a much more expression of freedom for her, would she take that occasional freedom and exercise it with a lover, as long as she understood she must share her (hopefully) delightful experience with me? 

If only she knew that her pleasure, even at the hand (or cock) of a lover was more important than mine, would she embrace that gift?  If she knew that she had the freedom to experience an occasional lover’s sexual pleasure, would she at least take that gift and tease me with it, even if she didn’t use it?  Yes Please!!

That would definitely excite me.  She could be moaning Keanu Reeves’ name as long as she was in the height of pleasure; I would be happy even while locked in my cage, whether I was pleasuring her or she was sliding down upon his cock for the third time tonight.  Can I learn to pleasure her with my cock without orgasm, and be returned to the cage, staying on edge until your desire returns?  It is possible. Would I have the strength or discipline to do that?  Yes, with her insistence, realizing what it will mean to us.

I do love happy women. She may never really ‘get this’ nor may I ever really articulate my quirks to her fully… just so she uses this knowledge to her benefit … and ours.

She May Not Be Happy You Waited...

If you've gone through the process, time has passed, and suddenly she wakes one night and turns to you and says... "YOU OWE ME!"

"What?" you groggily respond.

It occurs to her, that if you had the courage to mention your dreams, fantasies, and thoughts that you would have been teased and denied for a decade earlier, and she would have been enjoying a delicious decade of abundant loving and pleasure.

Maybe you should think about this now, instead of waiting 'till the time is right'.  Wouldn't you much rather come clean and be able to discuss anything and everything with your partner?

Remember, this is for her pleasure too; this is not all about you.  And the benefits go well beyond your occasional fantasy..  As I saw this image today, it occurred to me that it applies to chastity play as well.  By entering the world of chastity play with her, you lose that precious access to your ability to pleasure yourself whenever you wish.  But in the long run, you gain much much more by surrendering that key to her. If you read the post last week about the BIG question Why, you should have some insight why the denial is important to you.  And as she realizes all the benefits to her, and why the teasing that she does each day comes back to her as priceless gifts of time and pleasure from you, well...

Now follow this up with the other saying that also struck me today...

And add to the end of this one 'For You and Especially for Her'. Game On... now, go play.


Have a great week.  Caged.

Talk Talk Talk.?

Funny reading through the blogs and knowing for two people in an intimate relationship, we still fear opening up and trusting our partner won't go ballistic when we share a fantasy. 

I was reminded today that everyday that we let pass without sharing our deepest intimate thoughts is another day of regret later in life.


How many times have we read or heard from someone that 'I wish I had the courage years ago to tell her (or him) what burns in my mind...'

So when is a good time...?

The BIG Question of WHY Would He Want and Desire Chastity?

I can't tell you how often this subject comes up across the blogs and within myself as well, but I was recently reminded of a very well written explanation at Kelmag's blog that may be worth your time if this also haunts you periodically.  While this is a fairly long post, read through it... a number of very interesting points are included that will interest you, and especially women who are aghast at the thought of keeping her man chaste.  She may be looking to order a cage quickly...

What needs a bit of emphasis is the teasing part of the equation... and pleasing her any time and place she desires.

I was reminded of Kelmag's post while reading Lady Grey's blog (no association BTW, I haven't been lucky enough to meet her).  A number of different responses surface in the comments as to the 'why' question, and since a number of us vary across the spectrum regarding the interest in pure equal partnership to a full wife led dominance.  You can understand from the comments in both blogs why chastity play works across the board for those inspired with the courage to bring up the subject.

I have a full boatload of tasks to accomplish and shouldn't be posting this morning, but this is always a question I hear across the blogs.  And I needed to let everyone know I'm still alive and rolling the dice...